i used to have chronic UTIs, but thank goddess those are a thing of the past.
how can you get rid of a UTI? learn my secret bladder infection weapon in this video I made for DNews! (spoiler alert: it has nothing to do with cranberries)
THIS IS IMPORTANT.
For those of you who can’t get the video to play, she talks about a sugar called D-Mannose, and I’ll be looking this up for myself very quickly. Personally, I’m one of those people who have always benefited from drinking (lots of) cranberry juice — but I’m also one of those people who get UTIs as soon as I *stop* drinking cranberry juice for a week or more.
So. Sign my places up.
One thing I’ve noticed that’s an interesting note of cultural differences within America is the gendering of hairstyles. I’ve included variations above of the two-braids hairstyle that, where I come from, is a common male hairstyle.
I’ve included two pictures of Snoop Dogg, who is probably for most people the most famous wearer of this hairstyle in a national/international context. Snoop of course is a bit of a dandy, with the signature long hair that’s obviously pampered and well-cared for. An important note: Snoop is from the LA area, specifically Long Beach, which is also my birthplace and hometown.
I’ve also included a photo of Willie Nelson, who’s rather famous for appropriating the two-braids hairstyle, which is generally considered to be the domain specifically of men of color. The braids are most popular among men of indigenous, mestizo, or Mexican descent, including young Black men.
For young Black men who do not perm their hair, the cornrow-braids hairstyle is a bit more common; six cornrowed braids that are then braided again at the base of the neck into two braids instead of hanging free.
Additionally, being a male and having your hair prepared in this style gives another message: that there is a woman who cares for you enough to take care of your hair like this, whether a mother, grandmother, aunt, wife, sister, or girlfriend. It can have the connotation of being spoiled, como “trenzcito” which means “little braid(ed boy)”; it adds a connotation of “baby boy” or “youngest son”.
Two instances of culture clash: when I first moved up north, I commonly fixed my hair in two long braids, which were almost waist length. In Cali, this is a “butch” hairstyle, or at least kinda gender-neutral. I got so many (sexist AND racist) comments about it, especially at work, that I ended up cutting my hair off an inch or two from my scalp.
Another is my ex-husband had very long hair, which I used to carefully and lovingly braid for him as part of my marianisma duties: a single long braid, the double-braid-in-one style pictured above, two sleek braids parted in the middle, and on special occasions, box braids. In contrast, my (white) partner now really doesn’t like me to do anything to his hair at all; he considers it to be kinda feminizing and/or something only to be done in private. I always end up feeling vaguely offended and rejected, but I just have to remind myself that it’s honestly a cultural difference, and that his lack of braids doesn’t reflect poorly on my care for him.
It’s really kind of funny if you think about it. I’m always imagining people see my unbraided partner at work and their pity upon him for being so unloved, before I remember this is the north and no one thinks that here. Still, it doesn’t stop me from wanting to yell, “make sure they know that I LOVE you!” every day when he leaves for work.
Reblogging from the queue because this is one of my favorite posts of all time.
And this is one of the many, many examples of why “gender” is not just some myopic thing you can “abolish”. It’s an intrinsic part of people’s cultural heritage and understandings.
I’m that part of the fandom that can’t gif, make edits, write fanfiction or draw I’m just kind of here like
Which makes you the commenter, the fic-reccer, the source-finder, the link-poster, the headcanon buddy, the forum-poster, the kink-prompter, the conversation starter, the number one fan, the miscellaneous details and subconscious fact-checker.
aka: you’re the person all those other skill-sets are producing for.
I like you.
A good boy’s body is not its own.
i think i’ve reblogged this before, but just… it just gets to me. something about this position, where his dom can reach his whole body (the fun bits, anyway), doling out both pain and teasing pleasure, while he can still, the gasping moments between acts, lean back and rest against his dom’s belly… it’s cuddly while very clearly enforcing a disparity of power, and i like that.
the dom touching his nipple as a warm-up, too, i do that… taking a moment to watch him inhale and exhale and squirm and smile in anticipation, just enjoy the look of their body before i do anything much at all. best~
i’m not into armpits, but the position makes him so vulnerable to having his pressure points exploited. awesome. and anything where the dom only touched the head of the sub’s cock is a personal fave. the way he jerks from the limited contact in the second-last one
and of course, the final gif where the blindfold comes off, and his dom holds his hips still and finally gets serious about jerking him off. if it were me, i know there’d be some kissing and cradling his head, too, relaxing him before he’s allowed to finally just enjoy himself, while still in bondage and helpless to his dom’s touch… cause that’s what he’s into, y’know?
on the other hand, if it was me (with a sub who liked it), there’d also be a great deal more pain: slapping his cock, pinching and twisting his nipples, punching him in the pecs and slapping him in the face…
also, does he shave his armpits as well as his crotch? i didn’t think of myself as being into that but, wow…
Why hello inspiration, hello.
This is the hottest fucking thing
I haven’t wanted a male of the species to play with this much in… uh… ever? Holy CRAP.
The Hit. 19th.century. Sir Frederic Leighton. English. 1830-1896.
oil on canvas. http://hadrian6.tumblr.com
Yeah, this needed to be on my tumblr. I was talking to Pixie and she thought the boy looked like Dick, and I agreed with her at first, but the more I think about it…
Yeah, I think those features are more Garth’s than anyone else’s. *sigh*
Have I mentioned that I love being obsessed? Because I do.
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AHAHAHA omg. Well. I.
I haven’t done that yet? But clearly I should. I’m still working on trying to figure out ways to make my archive on AO3 as friendly as possible to readers while not throwing out (what I consider to be egregious) spoilers right and left, and right now all I really have for the AI is a tag for when it shows up as a speaking character. Clearly I was thinking too small. <3